When a man gets killed I never like to get mixed up in it in any way. I keep out. When I was a young man it was different…I stuck with them to the end…Let us learn to show our friendship for a man when he is alive and not after he is dead.
– F. Scott Fitzgerald
The Great Gatsby. Chapter 9, Meyer Wolfshiem recalls the good times he had with Gatsby many years ago. he believes that living and celebrating with someone while they are alive is far better friendship than just showing up at their funeral.