If, upon mature deliberation, you find that the misery of disobliging his two sisters is more than equivalent to the happiness of being his wife, I advise you by all means to refuse him.

– Jane Austen

Pride and Prejudice, Chapter 21. Elizabeth says this to a despondent Jane, who asks her can she be happy in accepting a man whose sisters and friends are all wishing him to marry someone else. Caroline Bingley has been attemping to break Jane and Charles Bingley up because she hopes he will marry Georgiana Darcy.