“When have you found me false to your teaching? When have you found me unmindful of your lessons? When have you found me giving admission here,” she touched her bosom with her hand, “to anything that you excluded? Be just to me.”
“So proud, so proud!” moaned Miss Havisham, pushing away her gray hair with both her hands.
“Who taught me to be proud?” returned Estella. “Who praised me when I learnt my lesson?”
“So hard, so hard!” moaned Miss Havisham, with her former action.
“Who taught me to be hard?” returned Estella. “Who praised me when I learnt my lesson?”
– Charles Dickens
Great Expectations, Chapter 38. Miss Havisham’s experiment in raising Estella to break men’s hearts in revenge for her own heartbreak spectacularly backfires. When Miss Havisham complains that her adopted daughter doesn’t show her love, Estella tells that she learned to be hard and proud from her adoptive mother.