I’m a freelance writer, and I work alone at a big desk in the living room of my apartment. There are many days when I don’t utter a single word to anyone but my husband. – Robin Marantz Henig
Regret is a bitter emotion, so painful that the urge to avoid it often drives decision-making strategies. – Robin Marantz Henig
When a trait is universal, evolutionary biologists look for a genetic explanation and wonder how that gene or genes might enhance survival or reproductive success. – Robin Marantz Henig
As the brain matures, one thing that happens is the pruning of the synapses. Synaptic pruning does not occur willy-nilly; it depends largely on how any one brain pathway is used. – Robin Marantz Henig
Some people, no matter how robust their stock portfolios or how healthy their children, are always mentally preparing for doom. They are just born worriers, their brains forever anticipating the dropping of some dreaded other shoe. – Robin Marantz Henig
Lies can be verbal or nonverbal, kindhearted or self-serving, devious or bald-faced; they can be lies of omission or lies of commission; they can be lies that undermine national security or lies that make a child feel better. And each type might involve a unique neural pathway. – Robin Marantz Henig
Beliefs about how lying looks are plentiful and often contradictory: depending on whom you choose to believe, liars can be detected because they fidget a lot, hold very still, cross their legs, cross their arms, look up, look down, make eye contact or fail to make eye contact. – Robin Marantz Henig
The music that was popular in your youth seems to be the music you recall most vividly – and most nostalgically – for the rest of your life. But so is the music that was popular in your parents’ youth. – Robin Marantz Henig
In the modern world, the anxious temperament does offer certain benefits: caution, introspection, the capacity to work alone. These can be adaptive qualities. – Robin Marantz Henig
Alright, alright, I admit it: my husband is the quiet, kind, accepting parent, and I’m the one who wants so much to be part of our two daughters’ lives than I can’t even let them finish a story without interrupting. – Robin Marantz Henig
Angels, demons, spirits, wizards, gods and witches have peppered folk religions since mankind first started telling stories. – Robin Marantz Henig
The limbic system explodes during puberty, but the prefrontal cortex keeps maturing for another 10 years. – Robin Marantz Henig
Elderly parents tend to think their relationship with their middle-aged children is smoother than the children do. Adult grandchildren, who have little stake in pulling away from their grandparents, tend to describe that relationship as less rose-colored than do Gram and Gramps. – Robin Marantz Henig
The human brain has evolved the capacity to impose a narrative, complete with chronology and cause-and-effect logic, on whatever it encounters, no matter how apparently random. – Robin Marantz Henig
Friends and relatives might be surprised that I think of myself as lonely. I’m married to a man I not only love but like, and we spend a lot of time together. If I feel like socializing, I can usually find someone to meet for coffee or a drink. – Robin Marantz Henig
Whatever the reason for any one individual’s tendency to gain weight, the only way to lose the weight is to eat less and exercise more. – Robin Marantz Henig
To me, it’s always interesting to see what people end up regretting, as a way maybe to avoid such regrets in your own life. – Robin Marantz Henig
The chance you passed up or missed could have had any number of different outcomes, and it’s easy to fantasize about how much better every one of those outcomes would have been. – Robin Marantz Henig
Anxiety is not fear, exactly, because fear is focused on something right in front of you – a real and objective danger. – Robin Marantz Henig
There’s very little about being in a functional-M.R.I. scanner that is natural: you are flat on your back, absolutely still, with your head immobilized by pillows and straps. The scanner makes a dreadful din, which headphones barely muffle. – Robin Marantz Henig
I regret not working harder to create true friendships with other couples, not seeking out people with whom to go do things and go places – people with whom to have a few crazy, memorable bonding adventures. – Robin Marantz Henig
Kids don’t shuffle along in unison on the road to maturity. They slouch toward adulthood at an uneven, highly individual pace. – Robin Marantz Henig
The 20s are like the stem cell of human development: the pluripotent moment when any of several outcomes is possible. Decisions and actions during this time have lasting ramifications. – Robin Marantz Henig
The English language has 112 words for deception, according to one count, each with a different shade of meaning: collusion, fakery, malingering, self-deception, confabulation, prevarication, exaggeration, denial. – Robin Marantz Henig
Even though loneliness affects so many of us, it has gotten scant research attention compared to related conditions like depression or anxiety. – Robin Marantz Henig
