Order is the first law of heaven, and you have to have order to survive on Earth. Figure out what has to be done each day, each week, each year and develop a system to achieve it. – Iyanla Vanzant
When you gossip, it’s self-hexing. Because when you do it, it comes back to you. Everything starts with the word. The word is demonstrating a condition of the mind. If it’s in your mind and comes out of your mouth, it will be created. – Iyanla Vanzant
Be willing to share all of who you are. So many of us want a partner, but we’re not willing to show all of us. – Iyanla Vanzant
I took my kids everywhere. I didn’t have money for child care, so I took them to college with me and they sat in the hallway. – Iyanla Vanzant
Oprah Winfrey gives you the stage? Shut your mouth. I said, ‘I’m sorry for taking over your show.’ She said, ‘No, that’s why we have you here.’ – Iyanla Vanzant
Everybody’s got a ‘thing.’ Some ‘things’ are nice and quiet. Some ‘things’ have fangs and claws. Some ‘things’ stink and have slobber everywhere. – Iyanla Vanzant
When Oprah Winfrey tells you that you need to have your own show, you feel compelled to do it. Especially if she’s gonna pay for it! – Iyanla Vanzant
I’ve always told the truth. I think that’s been part of the foundation of my career. I don’t put myself above people. I don’t put myself different than people. And I, for one, know that none of us is immune. – Iyanla Vanzant
Gossip is when you have a malice of intent or mindless, third-party conversation to someone about someone, something you haven’t said to that someone. – Iyanla Vanzant
You know when I was 20 and 30, they were insecurities. Now they’re just a new normal. I’m 60 years old, so my expectations of who I am and how I look and how I show up in the world had to shift. Not because I couldn’t help it, or not because I did anything wrong, but because I had to get into the natural flow of my being as a woman. – Iyanla Vanzant
I gave myself permission to feel and experience all of my emotions. In order to do that, I had to stop being afraid to feel. In order to do that, I taught myself to believe that no matter what I felt or what happened when I felt it, I would be okay. – Iyanla Vanzant
I’ve seen the good, the bad, and the ugly. Lived it and I’m still here to talk about it and help someone else if I can. – Iyanla Vanzant
You know, if you’re a human and living on the planet, it doesn’t matter what you do; you are not immune to the challenges, the trials, the difficulty. And that fact that I happen to be a coach and a minister and a spiritual teacher doesn’t mean anything. I’m still human. – Iyanla Vanzant
You know that you’ve healed an issue when you can talk about it and you’re not weeping, when you can speak to it and identify the lesson. You know that you’ve healed an issue when, having gone through that, has a benefit that you live today. – Iyanla Vanzant
You have a right to say no. Most of us have very weak and flaccid ‘no’ muscles. We feel guilty for saying no. We get ostracized and challenged for saying no, so we forget it’s our choice. Your ‘no’ muscle has to be built up to get to a place where you can say, ‘I don’t care if that’s what you want. I don’t want that. No.’ – Iyanla Vanzant
After being on ‘Oprah’ for a couple of months, I got my first royalty check for $1,478,392.17. I will never forget it. At the height of my career, I made $3.3 million. Unbelievable. From welfare in the projects to $3.3 million. – Iyanla Vanzant
If you’re not willing to let your partner see your cellulite or know your biggest fears, then you aren’t really ready to share yourself. – Iyanla Vanzant
Whether at work, at home or in public, we have been trained to believe that who we are at the core of our being is often unacceptable. As a result, we work diligently to live up to – and sometimes down to – what others have made us out to be, whether or not it is an accurate reflection of who we are. – Iyanla Vanzant
I had no preconceived idea what fame would be like, because I never thought I would be famous. I just wanted to do my work. Hell, I just wanted to pay my rent on time. – Iyanla Vanzant
Everyone has something that blocks us from the full experience and expression of our nobility. – Iyanla Vanzant
In my deepest, darkest moments, what really got me through was a prayer. Sometimes my prayer was ‘Help me.’ Sometimes a prayer was ‘Thank you.’ What I’ve discovered is that intimate connection and communication with my creator will always get me through because I know my support, my help, is just a prayer away. – Iyanla Vanzant
I’m the person that I always was, but in terms of how I approach my living, I’m not the same person at all. At all. I’ve buried a child, I’ve ended a marriage, and the grandson that I was raising is now grown. My family has totally shifted. – Iyanla Vanzant
I came from nothing. I came from the projects and welfare and ended up a millionaire with no frame of reference. I was bound to hit a wall sooner or later. – Iyanla Vanzant
I’m moving into that eldership age, you know? I’m at the ‘wise woman’ age where it’s not about learning, but utilizing the information that I have in a way that serves other people. That’s a high calling and it’s a great responsibility. – Iyanla Vanzant
I realized it was happening, but most people didn’t realize it was happening. I mean, because as a self-employed person, when there is a recession or a cutback in the economy, we feel it first. Because many self-employed people provide services that are nonessential. – Iyanla Vanzant
I have a daily message, ‘Stimumail,’ which I use to stimulate the mind and heart. I have the opportunity to touch over 60,000 people I have never met. I also use Twitter and Facebook. – Iyanla Vanzant
You’ve got to know what your ‘thing’ is, and you’ve got to call it a ‘thing,’ whether it’s meanness, nastiness, un-forgiveness, arrogance, ego, resistance, rebelliousness or defiance. Everybody’s got a ‘thing,’ and once you call your ‘thing’ a ‘thing,’ we can give it a place to be or dismiss it. – Iyanla Vanzant
